"Curiouser and curiouser"

I discovered two things in halfterm which set my curiousity-cogs spinning:

1. a book called "No More Silly Love Songs" which is all about how we learn to love people (for better or worse).http://www.amazon.co.uk/No-More-Silly-Love-Songs/dp/184627186X#noop

2. a film called "The Kids Are All Right" which is about how the teenaged children of a gay couple learn who their real father is ... and the difficult life lessons that this tumbles the whole family into ...
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0842926/

I'm trying to get better at making LINKS between ideas (as Creative Thinkers do!).   So, I was pleased to find a link between this book and this film.  They both shed light on how humans like to think they have found an answer to things - but when this solution stops working, we often don't like to have to find a new solution. This goes for personal issues (love, family, romance, self-esteem) as much as for work.  So we keep trying the same old solution, even though we know it doesn't work.  In the film, the couple find out that the old ways they used to do things as a family have to change as the kids get more grown up.  And in the book, the writer talks about how people throughout the centuries have fallen into all the same old love-traps over and over ...